Modesty is all very well in moderation, but are you actually selling yourself short by downplaying achievements and accomplishments. Are you the type of person that cannot take a compliment or jokes it off and trivialise success. If you recognise yourself in this article then you may be underestimating your true worth and selling yourself short. My own journey into blogging has made me realise that I sometimes self myself short too, creating ‘Life With Mrs T’ has made me realise that I do not give myself enough credit.
‘It was nothing’
I have said this so many times when doing something. Whether it is a random act of kindness or showing some ability of some description, I have decreased the value of what I have done by reducing the act to nothing. I did ‘something’ it wasn’t nothing and for that I should be proud of myself.
‘I can’t do that, what if I fail?’
My answer to that is ‘what if you don’t?’ Even if you do fail, is that so bad? What lessons can you learn from that event to help shape the way you approach the problem the next time?
Failure is an important part of making things a success. You have to fail before you can win, otherwise it would not be considered ‘winning’. Think of the sense of achievement you will experience if after many times trying something you finally do accomplish what you want.
‘I’m just doing my job’
This is another I am guilty of quite a lot. I am a teacher and I often find myself saying it to the pupils after they thank me for their help or after a great lesson. There is a difference between just ‘doing your job’ and doing your job in the best way you possibly can, with enthusiasm and expertise. My job is not easy and I should be proud to do my job in a way that makes a positive impact on others.
This can also be said for being a parent; it is a job that should be appreciated when you get it right. Nobody is perfect by any stretch of the imagination but you should celebrate the ‘little wins’ rather than focus on the negatives.
‘I don’t have positives’
I find this very hard to believe but I have heard it from people; ‘I am not good at anything’, ‘I’m rubbish’ and ‘I don’t have any positive qualities’. Do you make people laugh, are you generous and help others, do you think outside the box, are you a neat person/organised, are you friendly?
Anything can be a positive; you might be fighting chronic illness and getting up out of bed is a struggle, but you still do it because you are tenacious and determined. You might be able to spot when other people are upset and comfort them, isn’t that a positive? Life is a challenge; isn’t it a positive to survive through some of the things that are thrown at us?
‘It is what everyone else would have done’
This is a classic way of underestimating yourself and your personal attributes. Would ‘everyone’ really have done what you did? Unfortunately not everyone is willing to help people out, not everyone is nice and will do something for someone else that does not gain them anything.
Give yourself the credit you are due and recognise that you did something for someone else selflessly and that is something to celebrate about you, whether it happens once in a while or every single day.
You are stronger than you think
As I said previous, life is definitely a challenge. Sometimes you think that you will never get through to the other side of things, but you do. You survive and sometimes surviving through an unpleasant time shows strength of character and resilience. It shows that you are better and stronger that you first thought you would be.
Personally there have been times I thought I would never have the strength to get through, but guess what, I did. Sometimes just getting out of bed in the morning and making it through the day is an achievement, you should give yourself more credit. You bring your own unique qualities to the world that nobody else can take away from you, you are awesome.